Holidays are such a fun time of the year for many. You get to eat your heart out, see family and friends that you may not see all the time, and so much more. It’s a good time to get together and of course, are invited to parties.
If you have bad social anxiety, like myself, then this can be the most daunting time of the year. Socializing, small talk….. not bailing out on plans you agreed on. It something that a lot of people know well and need to figure out a way to deal with.
Read on below to see some tricks that have worked for me – and to let me vent.
I’ll start with god forsaken holiday parties. They’re the bane of everyone’s existence. I’ve only been to my one (since I’ve only been professionally working for one year) and it was fun, but so so awkward for my anxiety.
I had a good time with my coworkers, the music was great, and the fact that everything was free was even better.
But I’ve only been with my job for two months and while I have come out of my shell a lot since I started, I feel like I also am still at the same place I was when I started – just awkward and shy.
So needless to say, I didn’t do a whole lot of socializing and just sat around weirdly by the crowds of people I knew.
There’s no point with this one in prep – I thought I was gonna do alright but it turns out I totally was not okay. But one thing you can tell yourself is “I work with these people every day. I know them and they know me.”
Obviously that didn’t work as well for me. But that’s just because I’m trying to overcome my own social anxiety and still haven’t quite remembered to give myself the pep talks I need to not freak out.
Another thing that might freak out some is family.
Because when you’re in the developing stage of your life you are always asked “How is work?! How is school?!” etc. and so on.
Naturally post people just answer the question and they have a lot of things to say but for socially inept people like me it’s all “Yeah, it’s good.” and then I run out of things to say.
And it’s not because I don’t want to talk to my family – I think it’s because some of them think I am way more interesting than what I actually am. What do you say when someone asks what you’ve been up to? I work, I sleep, and that’s about it.
And yes, I know this is probably ALL I am going to get asked when I get home tomorrow night and during Christmas. And I’m going to be weird about it because its strange that people think I’m interesting enough to keep asking me about my life.
I have to remind myself that it’s because they’re just flat out curious how things are because I don’t talk about how I feel with people like, ever. Even this is a step for me and I’ve had this blog for quite some time. (But I’ve only just started getting people who actually read it – btw thanks for 100 likes on my posts!)
What do you guys do during the holidays to remind yourself to be social? It’s a very social time of the year and for some of us it can be terrible to think about.
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