Why I’m Not a True Gamer

You guys know the drill by now. Inspired by this Daily Inkling. Thank you Matt. Blah blah blah. Eventually I’ll have motivation and inspiration to…


You guys know the drill by now. Inspired by this Daily Inkling. Thank you Matt. Blah blah blah. Eventually I’ll have motivation and inspiration to write a post that isn’t based off an Inkling. But until then, this is what we’re all gonna get.

I’ve been apart of two gaming collaborations thus far in my blogging career – The Games that Define Us, which I totally credit for literally success I’ve achieved thus far, and Tracking Shells which is coming this Thursday. However, there is a reason why you hardly see me speak about games other than the Pokemon post, a first impression of a Nintendo game like Smash, and a lot of Sims.

But other than that, you see nothing. Sure, I get excited about other games that come out for other consoles – i.e KINGDOM HEARTS – but I try to stay out of it because I don’t like to consider myself a gamer.

The thing I always like to mention is that growing up with two brothers sometimes the only thing for me to do was to play on our Gamecube with them. Whether it was Smash, Mario Kart, Mario Party (was that even on that console? I don’t remember.), etc.

But other than that, I was more girly than anything with dolls and babies. I watched Disney Channel religiously and knew High School Musical way to well, all the while my brothers were playing Smash and whatever else they played at the time all day long. I had a Nintendo DS and a Gameboy Advance SP (mine was silver and had a sticker with my name on it) but often times I would go to play my games and they wouldn’t be there cause my older brother would steal them when I did better than him.

Naturally he tried to say he didn’t but no one in my family is a moron. Even years later when I was 16 I found my SP and Pokemon Ruby Red and started playing it, he found out, next day I came home from school and it was gone. I didn’t even bother trying to fight for it back at that point.

Anyways, going backwards a few more years. We got a Wii and I played on that as well, though I can’t specifically remember what we played. I know that at some point I had a Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows Part 2 game that I got almost halfway through and then gave up on.

When my younger brother got his XBox, I took one or two tries trying to play Call of Duty and gave up. In my mind if that was what games were going to be like now I wanted no part of them, so instead of playing video games I occupied my time with writing, teaching myself Photoshop and video editing (Sony Vegas, anyone?) and completely just stopped giving a shit about gaming.

And then I got the Sims. Not gonna rehash that story, go over here and read it from the Games that Define Us if you wish. Even just playing the Sims makes me not want to call myself a gamer, cause there are a lot of people who wouldn’t consider the Sims a video game as it’s more simulation. I didn’t call myself a gamer when I just played Sims because I didn’t want to deal with people complaining that I wasn’t really a gamer.

And while I was playing Sims, I begged my mom to help me get a Nintendo 3DS (that I still have by the way, hardly play it, but to my own fault cause I lost the digital download of the game I was going to play when I moved) and I have only two games for it: Pokemon and LEGO Hobbit. It was a very rare day when I actually played my 3DS and I forgot about it again and stopped gaming, minus Sims.

And then in August of 2018, after having watched my best friend play her Switch all god damn summer, I caved and bought a Switch. And I feel like that childhood joy of button smashing is back in my life. I will always not play it nearly as much as I like because adult life takes over, and I like to play on a TV screen and I am currently TV-less (I hope to not be sooner rather than later) so I can’t play the way I prefer to. I have another computer game I play, Stardew Valley, and I will put that under the category of the Sims.

So now we near the end of the backstory part of this post. And in all honesty, I’m a little nervous to keep going, because in my brain, me saying that I don’t consider myself a gamer could just put people off of me. In my brain, it could make people think “She doesn’t want the stigma” when that is totally and completely not at ALL the case.

I just don’t consider myself a gamer because I’m not as dedicated as other people are and I can’t get myself to like some consoles. I will probably never end up liking the XBox. It will probably never be my console of choice, and that’s okay because my console of choice is Nintendo gaming. As for the PS4, I don’t know. I’d like to one day give it a shot just so I can play Spiderman and Kingdom Hearts.

So in conclusion, while I love video games and I like the little niche of games that I play, I don’t like to consider myself a gamer. There are loads of more people out there who are more dedicated to trying new games, who play more, who have a bigger passion than I.

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  1. Honestly? Despite playing videogames since I was a young kid (my older brother had a NES that I had handed down to me when he bought himself a SNES) and still playing now at 34 (I’m hanging onto that for a few months yet) and writing about games for the best part of a decade, I’ve long since stopped refering to myself as a “gamer”. There are two reasons for this: I love all sorts of entertainment and whilst historically games have had a larger share of my time than others I wouldn’t want to give up any of it (if there was ever a situation where I had to make a choice that is). The other reason is that gaming has become really toxic: gender politics, racial and sexual abuse online, elitism (your belief that you’re not a gamer because you only play certain games is an example of this). I’ve grown tired of the sheer number of manchildren that are so vocal with the so-called “community” of gamers, I don’t see myself reflected in that community.

  2. I don’t think I could consider myself a gamer even though I was a hardcore gamer as a kid and teenager. I kinda don’t have time any more. Most of my games are remastered old games I used to play as a kid, or just plain old consoles like the SEGA or the PS1. The newest game I have is Spiderman, and I haven’t played on that since Christmas.
    It’s okay to like games, and not be a gamer. It’s okay to prioritise other things. I think a lot of the time people see a nerd blog and instantly think gamer blog. But there’s loads more to geekery than games. And people will just have to learn that 🙂
    Thanks for sharing your experience. It’s good to know us gals are not alone in our quest to not be labelled either way!

    Writing into the Ether

  3. Great article! I can see where you’re coming from. I do consider myself a gamer because I genuinely like video games and I think with all the gate keeping we have in this community, it makes members feel like they aren’t “gamers” when they are. Gate keeping sucks.

  4. I wouldn’t sweat it. “Gaming” as a medium now is so broad and diverse that you can subsist exclusively on the types of experiences you enjoy without ever having to dip your toes into the murky waters of experiences you have no interest in.

    I’m one of many fine case studies you will doubtless find in these comments! I detest online multiplayer games, have zero interest in modern military shooters and don’t even really like most of the “blockbuster” games that get released these days. And yet I still have more games on my shelf than I can probably ever reasonably hope to play through to completion in my lifetime — all stuff that I know I will enjoy, that will resonate with me, that will cater to my specific tastes.

    Am I a lesser “gamer” because I don’t like Call of Duty and have no desire whatsoever to download Fortnite and/or Apex Legends? Who gives a shit? No-one complains at music enthusiasts if they’re particularly interested in prog rock and don’t attend classical concerts when the opportunity arises; no-one slags off film buffs if they’re into French arthouse flicks and display no interest in the latest Marvel movies; no-one cares if a self-professed anime fan is only into shounen, or cute girls doing cute things, or isekai, or whatever. (Well, all right, a few people complain in that last one, but we’re talking about a younger medium!)

    It should be exactly the same for gaming. No one gaming experience is more or less “valid” than any other if the person who is actually playing the game is deriving some sort of value from what they are doing. Regardless of what form that “value” takes.

  5. I don’t know if you read my Games that Define us contribution, but your post feels really similar. I hate consoles; I could never get on with them as a child (and still don’t as an adult due to a medical condition – I was born with it so this probably played a factor as a child too) and was made to feel inadequate by male peers because of that. It was only as an adult when I found video games on the PC at my own pace and through my own exploration that I blossomed into the gamer I am now. I claimed the gamer title for myself through my own exploration and maybe that is what the Switch will be for you.

    At the end of the day what we use to identify ourselves is completely up to us and if you never call yourself a gamer then that’s perfectly ok! There’s many people who use the term ‘casual gamer’ because they feel that ‘gamer’ comes with a lot of assumptions. You may find that works for you one day, but I’m really glad you took the time to explore this in a blog post and got your thoughts and feelings out rather than bottling them up 🙂


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